I asked five Rabbis to help me unravel the meaning of the Commandment, "Honor Your Father". The first Rabbi told me that "to honor" means to take care of my father's physical needs and that no love is required. " The Torah firmly states that your health and well being comes first", stated the second Rabbi, "you are not required to have contact with him if it harms you in any way". The third Rabbi reminded me to honor my mother, an effort made impossible when I hear the cruel criticisms of her and her family uttered by my father and his wife. The fourth Rabbi heard my soul weeping and comforted me, helping to lift the pain lying like a stone on my heart. And the fifth Rabbi sat with me in her sukkah and asked me to leave my anger and sorrow in her sacred shelter.