Handy

[Cita]

She's handy to have around.

She heard him tell Dirk one night after about the fourth beer that a guy ought not get with a girl that's too hot because then he's always got to worry.

It's better if she just pretty enough, the kind that's grateful to have a guy at all.

Plus, she's handy to have around, remembers to put more beer out of the box and into the fridge, remembers to get steaks or burger out so it will thaw, is always willing to run down and flip the pump off when you're ready to just lay on the couch after a day... a hard day, you know... can be counted on to put on shorts and a tank top when its hot outside so you can see a little flash of skin, the kind a guy needs, and at the end of the month she's good at having an extra $20, not always broke like the guys.

And it's nice to just have someone in your bed at night, someone who's willing and there, that you don't have to fuss over or call or take out to dinner and hope, a sure thing.

Someone who's handy.

(Yes, I know it is lie and not lay, but give me license for voice.)

[FlowerChild]

A vicious cycle.....cause damn but it's nice to be handy.

[Bob Clay]

It is kind of sad, gives me the feeling of life being a straight line journey line from A to B taking the easiest course, putting in your time before going to the great big emptiness in the sky (don't mind me, it's been raining here for six f***ing weeks).  It's very good though.

[Christine Calhoun]

I've met men like this (happily, never dated them). I would wonder if when they said things like this if it was on account of shallow minds or shallow hearts. I like to think they only do it because it's popular and makes them sound macho and not like (gasp) sensitive, caring men and that deep down they hoped for more out of a mate instead of just a maid/mother/sex thing.

[Cita]

Babe.. as in "Hey, babe, grab us a beer woncha?"

This post seems to have hit a nerve.  It  also seems to mean different things to different people.  Interesting!

[Kristine_ES]

my feminist hackles are raised. and on fire. that ain't good. 

(but you wrote it so well, who WOULDN'T be ticked off)

wait... was Handy's name Babe? Or Sug (short for Sugar?) 

 

[Bill Floyd]

This doesn't only apply to relationships, but jobs, friends, lifestyles, etc.  I personally believe most people settle, but as T points out, you don't get to choose who you fall in love with, and that tends to throw a wrench in the most carefully laid plans, eh?    

[Paul de Denus]

Sounds like what I hear from some of my son's friends, the way they treat girls (friends) - it ain't love, it sounds like fumbling guys.

[Ron. Lavalette]

We have so much stuff in our lives with which we are extremely comfortable--handy stuff we've come to depend on on and (dare I say it?) even love.  It does not diminish it to say so.  Still, things are not people, and one might hope for more of a spark, might hope for someone who's more than just 'willing and there.' 

fantastic write, C.

[Joey Delgado]

I always thought if I ever came to be nothing more than 'handy' to anyone I was with, that would be it, but as the piece so beautifully demonstrates, it's not that easy 

 

Well written piece, Cita. And now I must consult my diaries and relive past relationships

[Mike Handley]

Handy's okay, I guess. So's eye candy. But at the beginning and end of the day, I want someone who doesn't think a gerund is either a mythological man-goat or the newest Hyundai model.