Connectedness

[Payam Ghassemlou]

 

What prevents people from feeling more connected to one another and less isolated?

It depends on how our caretakers related to us during our first few years of life.  When they were reliable, consistent and available, it helped us internalize positive expectations about others and a sense of trust that it is safe to need and connect with others. In such absence, we learned isolation is safer than needing others. The way to transform painful isolation to nourishing connectedness is through taking risks and trusting someone truly special to connect with. Since this connection does not have to be a romantic relationship, any meaningful connection on a deeper level can do it.

[Jeanette Cheezum]

You may have something there.

[Payam Ghassemlou]

Thanks Jeanette and everyone else for your wonderful comments. In regard to Jeanette comment, I think sometimes people give more than they recieved is because many people believe they have to earn love. They don't feel they deserve love. It has to do more with being needed than really about giving.

[Jeanette Cheezum]

Some of us still give much more than we ever received.

[Angela]

Well written, straightforward premise that is well supported.  Nice job.

[Mike Handley]

Connect with us at HoW (6S writers gathering in Kansas) in July. Writing, laughter, swimming, hugs and feasting. If you're interested, please let me know.

[Stephen Torelli]

A soft kiss always unites. Excellent insight! 

[Gita]

Very wise, Payam. I have always believed that the amount of love poured into us as small children equals the amount of love we will give back to others.